The stay connected syondrome

Yesterday, I was driving, and the FM radio went off for few seconds. I thought, I should have an iPod. Then suddenly I realized that I have not used my iPod in last 6 months. And then, more things, Handy cam in last 2 years, Digital Camera in last 2 months, DVD player in last 1 month and many more. Now I can say that I bought that Handy cam just out of impulse, I have used it twice only in last 4 years.
 
So, what's wrong and where? When I look at myself or my friends I can see it everywhere. We are not happy with what we have but all are stressed and not happy for the things we don't have. You have a Santro, but you want City; You have a City, but you want Skoda. Just after buying a new phone, we need another one. Better laptop, bigger TV, faster car, bigger house, more money, .I mean, these examples are endless. The point is, does it actually worth? Do we ever think if we actually need those things before we want them?
 
After this, I was forced to think what I need and what I don't. May be I didn't need this Handy cam or the iPod or that DVD player. When I see my father back at home. He has a simple BPL colour TV, he doesn't need 32" Sony LCD wall mount. He has a cell phone worth Rs 2,500. Whenever I ask him to change the phone, he always says, "Its a phone, I need this just for calls."
 
And believe me; he is much happier in life than me with those limited resources and simple gadgets. The very basic reason why he is happy with so little is that he doesn't want things in life to make it luxurious, but he wants only those things which are making his life easier. It's a very fine line between these two, but after looking my father's life style closely, I got the point. He needs a cell phone but not the iPhone. He needs a TV but not the 32" plasma. He needs a car but not an expensive one.
 
Initially I had lot of questions.
 
I am earning good, still I am not happy,...why ?
 
I have all luxuries, still I am stressed.... ....... why ?
 
I had a great weekend, still I am feeling tired...... why?
 
I met lot of people, I thought over it again and again, I still don't know if I got the answers, but certainly figured out few things. I realize that one thing which is keeping me stressed is the "stay connected" syndrome. I realized that, at home also I am logged in on messengers, checking mails, using social networks, and on the top of that, the windows mobile is not letting me disconnected. On the weekend itself, trying to avoid unwanted calls, and that is keeping my mind always full of stress. I realized that I am spending far lesser money than what I earn, even then I am always worried about money and more money. I realized that I am saving enough money I would ever need, whenever needed. Still I am stressed about job and salary and spends.
 
May be, many people will call this approach "not progressive attitude", but I want my life back. Ultimately it's a single life, a day gone is a day gone. I believe if I am not happy tonight, I'll never be happy tomorrow morning. I finally realized that meeting friends, spending quality time with your loved one's; spending time with yourself is the most important thing.
 
If on Sunday you are alone and you don't have anybody to talk with, then all that luxuries life, all that money is wasted. May be cutting down your requirements, re-calculating your future goal in the light of today's happiness is a worthwhile thing to do. May be selling off your Santro and buying Honda City on EMIs is not a good idea. I believe putting your happiness ahead of money is the choice we need to make.
 
I think, a lot can be said and done but what we need the most is re-evaluation of the value of happiness and time we are giving to our life and people associated with it.

Waris Dirie

Well, I was jus googling while chatting wid Roweena on g talk. And I surprisingly remembered a Somalian Model about whom I read back then in 1998 ( I had forgotten her name though). Its been 12 years now.. After googling for 2 weeks.. Finally I came across her name, which was Waris Dirie. She is a Black Model ( No offense I meant she is from Africa)... Well I wanted to share her story with u guys... I know its gonna take a long time for me to write But I think, its worth my time.

Well, Waris Dirie was born in 1965 (approx, cuz she doesnt know)..into a nomad family living in the region of Gallcaio, in the Somali desert near the border to Ethiopia. Her family was a tribe of herdsmen in the Somalian desert. They were considered as well to do family according to Somalian standard. At the tender age of five, she underwent the inhuman procedure of genital mutilation. This horrible tradition is still practiced worldwide today, both by Muslims and Christians. Dirie remembers the mutilation only as 'that horror.' As a little girl, she was blindfolded and held down by her mother, with only a cloth to bite on to relieve her pain, while her clitoris was cut out with a dirty razor. The same procedure, Dirie says, killed her sister - along with many other girls in Somalia who were cut in the wrong vein and bled to death or died of an infection. But Waris, who survived this tragic procedure, shows a strength, not only of the physical sort, but also a strength of mind, body and soul. At the age of 13 Waris fled from a forced marriage to a man, who could have been her grandfather in age. She found out she was to have an arranged marriage to a 60-year-old man in exchange for five camels. After an adventurous escape she arrived in London. She lived with an uncle in Addis Ababa who took her with him when he was appointed ambassador to London worked there as a housemaid and at McDonald’s.

While she was working at McDonald's, she was discovered by the British top photographer Terence Donovan as a model at the age of 18 and became an international celebrity. Terence Donovan, who helped secure for her the cover of the 1987 Pirelli calendar. From there, her modeling career took off, scoring advertisements for top designers such as Chanel, Levi's, L'Oreal & Revlon. She was given a part as a James Bond girl in the movie ‘The Living Daylight’, side by side with Timothy Dalton.

In 1997, at the height of her modeling career, Waris spoke for the first time with Laura Ziv of the women's magazine Marie Claire about the female genital mutilation (FGM) that she had undergone as a child, an interview which received worldwide media coverage. That same year, Waris became a UN ambassador for the abolition of FGM, and later paid her mother a visit in her native Somalia.The Secretary-General of the United Nations, Kofi Annan, appointed her as UN Special Ambassador for the elimination of Female Genital Mutilation. She travelled the world for the UN, participated in conferences, met with presidents, Nobel Prize winners and movie stars and collects enormous funds for the UN.

Waris Dirie is a role model for all women. She is standing up for women's rights and letting the world know about this horror that many innocent children go through each year. She is very independent to go out on her own and try to finally put an end to this abomination. Waris is determined, through campaigns and charities, to make her voice heard to help try and save these children. Regardless of what people think, Dirie is standing up for women in the countries of Djibouti, Sudan and Somalia, and her work is reported on in Egypt, Eritrea, Ethiopia, Kenya, Mali and Nigeria. Dirie is an independent soul striving for equal rights in this world. Standing up for all she believes in, on her own, she wants to make the world better for future generations of African communities that practice this ritual.

To live through such a terrible horror, you must be strong. But to lay your career on the line for thousands and thousands of children that you don't even know, children you've never see before, shows deep compassion for others. Waris Dirie knows the agony and the suffering of genital mutilation and she does not want anyone in the world to go through what she had to endure. Waris cares enough to struggle until she knows children can sleep at night, not dreading this awful ritual.

Waris is doing her part to break the wall of silence that has surrounded this practice for so long. In a new short TVE/UNFPA film, Waris relates her own story, and gives her views on how to stop FGM (female genital mutilation). "It’s got to be kept in the newspapers, it’s got to be talked about - and that’s the way people can help and to know what’s going on. Because mostly they don’t know what’s going on. Most of the world doesn’t know it’s going on, and it happens."